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Happy 7th Anniversary to us

BJ | June 8, 2009 1:55 pm

On the surface it would seem that I haven’t done much for my wife this year in the way of Mother’s Day/Birthday/Anniversary. This trifecta of sentiment is a little draining and for my poor wife it’s the time she can cram to get all of her good will for most of the year.

A few interesting notes however. We won a drawing at a NICU reunion for Phoebe which will allow us to stay one night for free at the Westin in Frisco.

Heather called me one day a few weeks ago and was complaining again about her 1991 Honda Accord. It was a serviceable car with relatively low repair costs. The transmission seemed to be in the process of failing however and after some consternation on Heather’s part and some quick googling, test driving, and investigation on my part and she had a new car in the driveway… well a used car, but a fairly nice one.

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You might roll your eyes and think that I’ve given her a gift that I seem to benefit from. This might be true. I might even have had this intention. You should also know that she guards this vehicle with everything she has. Her confidence in her tinkering husband is immediately called into question when he opts to install an iPod interface in her vehicle.

“You have to what?”
“Why does it need one?”
“Do you really have to take the dash apart.”

I am happy to report that only 2 screws did not find their way back into her dashboard and there are no scratches that did not already exist. Also, her car has a decent stereo in it already… subwoofer and all.

There is no question this is her car. I have to plan hours in advance to actually be able to drive the family anywhere since it is the family vehicle. She is more than willing to play chauffeur at a moments notice. In order to console myself I also bought a car; a car I could tinker with endlessly.

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It’s fun.

There’s something else I have to get her for her anniversary… but I can’t say what it is.

Phoebe loves shoes

BJ | June 5, 2009 11:55 am

OMG Shoes. Phoebe loves them. At any given moment Phoebe is either swapping shoes, trying on shoes, or digging through someone’s closet for new shoes.

Our recent trip to Bryan, TX to visit family, brought us to a children’s play museum. There was a small selection of dress up items which of course included shoes. Phoebe immediately began prancing around in her new shoes.

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Heather wanted some pictures of Phoebe in her cousins boy clothes as well. Phoebe had run out of sleepers and needed something to wear. We got a good picture but also a picture reflecting her true feelings on wearing boys clothes.

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The well documented vacation

BJ | December 3, 2008 2:16 pm

Heather is working on a longer post about the various activities and fun things we did over our Thanksgiving vacation. We have plenty of pictures of all the fun moments we had. After reading some of her draft, I realize that we have pictures to illustrate pretty much every fun moment we spent with family.

There won’t be enough room in her post to show all of these pictures so I’ll try and share some highlights.

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This week in the Atchley home 10/13 – 10/19

Heather | October 21, 2008 4:01 pm

Phoebe has discovered the white nobs on the end of spring doorstops. Throughout my day I am constantly finding them in her mouth. For awhile I would rinse them off and put them back with a false hope she would leave them alone…….NOPE! I gave up and have put any away that I find, but I have not taken them off of the ones she has not gone after yet. Just the other day she actually tried to push me out of the way so she could get to the one to our room! I have also caught her going back to the original scene of her crimes to see if the white nobs have returned. One day I will be able to put them back!

Sophia got to try for the first time (compliments of Granny) those frosted Mother’s brand animal cookies with sprinkles. Sophia has only ever seen sprinkles on cupcakes so when Granny handed her one and asked her what it was she stared at it for a bit then said, “a cupcake!”

Sophia watched the original Disney version of Peter Pan. Hook has a particular way of saying Peter Pan; it is more like “Petah Pan.” Sophia picked up on it and for the rest of the movie would repeat, “Petah!” Days later she is still going on about “Petah! Petah!”

Sophia has always been a bit of a gassy child but something is up with her this week!!! I’m worried to light a candle in this house from all the gas that little girl is putting off! I have not changed anything about her diet and she is not eating beans or broccoli and yet she is blasting us constantly. I am only mentioning it in this post (because admittedly this IS a strange thing to write about) because it is SO MUCH! BJ and I have been in complete shock and awe from this. I would hate for her to grow up to be Ms. Toots Too Much.

Sophia finally got cowgirl boots! I have been shopping around for months until I found out Stride Rite was going to get them in for the Fall. I have been waiting for about 2 months and then Granny took us shoe shopping. They had them in multiple colors and styles but the metal tipped, light pink ones were iresistable. I was stressing over getting them too since we have been also planning for months for her to be a cowgirl for Halloween. Having the boots was the last thing we needed to get and would complete the outfit perfectly. If we didn’t get them in time I was going to have to make her a pirate like the rest of us. We also got treated to new church shoes and some sneakers for the Fall/Winter. Thank you Granny! She has loved showing off her cowgirl boots to anyone who will look.

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My sister Jennifer and her 3 kids arrived in town as well as my other sister Tiffany. We enjoyed 2 nights with “Auntie Tiffduhdee” as Sophia says, and have been having Jennifer stay with us off and on between my mom’s house and here. Tiff left this weekend but Jenn is here to stay for another week, which I am excited about because I feel like the kids haven’t had enough time together. We all went out to eat at Babes Chicken House Saturday night. For anyone who has not been there they are a great family style dining restaurant with great fried chicken and home cooked style veggies. They will pretty much bring you an unlimited supply of mashed potatoes, cream corn, green beans, salad, and biscuits if you ask. It is all so yummy and I definitely recommend it as a place to eat! Phoebe even surprised me with how much chicken she ate.

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My discipline is rubbing off on Sophia too much I think. I caught her playing with 2 of her stuffed animals. The larger one “Meow Kitty” was the daddy and “Penny”, the much smaller pink one was the child. She had them facing each other and in a rough voice said “Do you understand?” Penny’s reply, “No! Do YOU understand?!” Meow kitty, “Tough luck!” This is added onto by her telling me when I make her upset that I need a “pop” or to got to “time out” or “go to bed”. I would actually like the last one, going to bed at anytime I want sounds nice.

Sophia hurt both her knees by falling on the concrete out back. She whines to me telling me she hurt her knees but I was busy with Phoebe so I said from afar, “Oh baby I’m sorry. Kiss Kiss.” I guess I was supposed to actually go over and kiss her because she came up to me, smacked my butt (I was bending over tending to Phoebe) and said in a demanding voice, “Mama! I need kisses!” So I sat her down and obliged.

Sophia has taken on with a passion pretending to be a cat. Everyday she is a “kitty cat” and will crawl and meow, even when she is asking for things or trying to tell us something, it will be in her meow voice. I, of course, at times play along with it and treat her like a little kitty cat and meow back at her. So she and I established who we all are in the house: I am Mama Cat, BJ is Big Cat (her words not mine), she is Little Kitty, and Phoebe is Baby Kitten.

All the cousins, Jennifer, BJ and I enjoyed an early morning trip to the duck pond to give the ducks their ‘breakfast’. They were very hungry and ate every crumb of bread we brought. It is so much fun when they come up so close to you and are willing to take it from your hand. The kids had a blast needless to say.

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This weekend Phoebe FINALLY cut tooth number 3! It is her top left and has only barely broken through the skin, but it is there! We now have proof there are more teeth in her head, they were just taking their sweet time! Hopefully this marks the beginning of several more teeth coming in very soon.

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The highlight of the week was going to see Neil Diamond live in concert with my sisters and our dad. We purchased tickets for his birthday that was in July but the concert wasn’t until now. We went to the Claypit to eat Indian food beforehand and it was very different but delicious. It was so nice just having the 4 of us go. Growing up we used to have daddy-daughter dates so it was nice to have another one all these years later and to share it with my sisters. Some of you might think, “what the heck?! Neil Diamond?! Is she nuts?!” I know I am 26 years old and ND seems like a strange choice of music for me, but there is history there. My parents like ND and listened to him while I was growing up. I have known of him and his music for as long as I can remember. I saw The Jazz Singer very young as well. I can remember car trips when we were on vacation and trying to fall asleep and hearing his music playing over the radio and either not being able to sleep or simply finding myself singing along. I don’t think anyone can listen to ‘Comin’ to America’ and not be moved somehow or enjoy the song in its simplicity. The man is nearly 68 and he can still perform so wonderfully. He took time to speak with and about the audience. His voice is not as strong as it used to be but it was still sensational. All in all it was a great night with great people.

This week in the Atchley home 08/18 – 08/24

Heather | August 25, 2008 11:07 pm

BJ and I took wedding announcement photos for his cousin Cindy. We went to the location where they met and we were able to get some amazing shots. I had fun picking the locations and posing them while BJ set up lighting and his umbrellas. We were a really good team, and I even grabbed the camera a few times and took some awesome pictures. BJ was impressed. We have also been asked to photograph the wedding! Blake and Cindy were so pleased with the photos they found it almost impossible to pick just one. So Blake had the wonderful idea of using multiple shots for different invitations. That allowed them to use 6 shots. Here is a sample of some of the photos used.

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I did something a little out of the ordinary this week. On one of the days working for my mom I had to go to the post office to mail a 25lb box. It was 2pm and I had not eaten lunch and was starving and feeling sick. My plan had been to go get lunch after the mail, and I knew I needed to hurry back to Granny’s to a hungry little Sophia. So, I am hot, hungry, tired, in a rush and there is a long line at the post office and only one person working. Another lady was kind of coming in and out but not helping yet. This man walks in after me, clearly physically and mentally handicapped. His mouth is hanging open and he is drooling on himself. After what seems like forever I get called on by a 2nd worker that finally came out and the man gets called by the lady next to me. He is speaking through an open mouth and is almost impossible to understand. The employee is clearly not understanding him and doesn’t seem to want to try. I can sort of tell by what he had on the counter what he wants so I just butt right in and tell her what I think he wants, he acknowledges that I am correct. I had to write 2 addresses down, get his ID card to get his return address, and figure out the spelling he had someone else write on a piece of paper. I surprisingly understood his grunts and attempts at letters. (Hindsight: I realized it wasn’t luck that I understood him. I have a 2 and 1 year old at home! I can understand all sorts of random chatter and noise!) The postwoman was so thankful and I am sure a lot of frustration and stress was alleviated by my interference. I was also hoping that an example of kindness helped the others in line, that were clearly agitated at the wait, soften a little and calm down.

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So you might be thinking, “What happened to Heather’s forehead?!” I actually chose to do this to myself. I had a burst capillary on my forehead since I was a teenager that caused red splotchy mark. I remember my sister, Tiffany, teasing me that it looked like a pimple. I always covered it with makeup but I got real tired of that and couldn’t see doing that for the rest of my life. I had it lasered away but it left this nasty purple bruise. BJ told me it looked like a big mole. Other friends have teased that they wondered if I was changing cultures/religion. I’ll just be glad when the bruising goes away and I don’t have a red mark to look at!

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Sophia has started enjoying being naked, well, at least a diaper on. I will find her at our house or Granny’s suddenly without a shirt or pants or both. I am pretty much okay with it until we were at a store recently and she took her shirt off when my back was turned. I hope this unclothed phase will pass soon.

Phoebe is definitely down to only one nap a day. I am kind of sad the 2 nap a day life is over because only having one child conscious is a lot easier. However, it has allowed for me to go out more and do stuff knowing she won’t have to take a nap until later in the afternoon. Sophia, is becoming hit and miss in the nap department as well. She had 3 days in a row with no nap but it caught up with her! I am not ready for her to have no naps yet!!!! I will have to see how this progresses.

Sophia got invited to a birthday party this week and Phoebe got to tag along with us. We enjoyed making visors and playing with friends and toys. Phoebe was just happy to be there with so many other kids and new toys. This gives me more hope she will transition to nursery at Church fairly easily. Sophia got a goody bag to take home. In it were Disney Princess stampers with an ink pad. I discovered the first go around that the ink was not kid friendly and would not come off her fingers. No big deal, so I let her play with it the next day. I walk out of the room for 5 minutes and come back to this. It was on her face for almost 3 days.

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Sophia has also taken to cutting paper. She has these kid safe scissors in an art set Granny gave her. She spends lots of time just sitting there cutting the edges of the pages of her coloring books.

BJ and I got a children’s plastic table from Ikea for the girls. I got rid of her highchair at the table so she can eat, paint, color, whatever at this table and I can care less if it gets stained or scratched. Both girls have fallen in love with it and Phoebe really enjoys sitting with her big sister sharing snacks and watching her color.

Whenever Sophia has hurt herself or fallen we immediately ask her if she is okay. She will respond with either “I’m fine, “I’m okay”, or “yeah.” That has all been bypassed now. Before we even have a chance to open our mouths she is saying “I’m okay” when she gets injured or falls. We find this very sweet and funny.

She has also taken to having little conversations with herself. If we don’t say your welcome after she tells us thank you she will say it for us. Or other times she will ask questions or make comments about something and then answer with a follow up. It amazes me how much her talking and conversation skills have come along in just about 2 weeks!

Wonderful progress with potty training! Nana and Poppy recommended giving her an M&M treat every time she sat on the potty regardless of any result. She has gone in the potty more times this week than she ever has before. She even told me a couple times beforehand that she had to go. We bought our last box of diapers for her and our next trip to Costco we will be coming back with training pants!

I have a ton of Braum’s paper bags in the house. I decided to cut out some holes for Sophia’s arms and head and make her a ‘robot’. She was so thrilled with it, and I have made more paper bag robots this week than I care to think about.

In the middle of sacrament meeting Sophia, somewhat loudly, asks me to “draw boobies” on the Dora I had just sketched on her magnadoodle.

Phoebe is really trying with her vocabulary. At times she sounds like she is almost repeating things we are saying like “that” and “yes”.

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Phoebe has started a naughty little habit of pinching. She has made many small injuries to her parents’ faces and arms to pinching. She has a much stronger grip than one would think by looking at her. She also grabs her own cheeks too. Not sure what that is all about other than her cheeks are quite chunky and pinchable!

BJ had sharing time at church this week. For those of our friends not sure of what that is, it is basically a 15 minute interactive lesson to a group of about 30 kids ages 7 to 11. He has a great lesson planned on baptism. Halfway through it an older boy commented to BJ that his “older brother wanted to get baptized in a swimming pool so afterwards he could swim in his sins.” BJ almost died laughing, I think, and the sharing time was quite hard to finish because he and some other teachers couldn’t compose themselves.

The girls are really impressing me. Sophia is showing more patience with Phoebe and a willingness to interact. She actually will try and call Phoebe over to her to play with her or tell her what to play with and what to do with it. They hold hands in the car between the car seats and Sophia gets worried when Phoebe drops her blanket in the car too. I find a reason every day to smile at their blossoming relationship.

There exists a darker dimension

BJ | July 29, 2008 4:24 pm

No, our house hasn’t been taken over by a Silent Hill like dark dimension, Sophia just likes to walk around with things over her eyes. It just so happens that a swim diaper is both hilarious and creepy.

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This week in the Atchley home 7/14 – 7/20

Heather | July 21, 2008 11:12 pm

One thing I failed to mention in last weeks post was that when we left town we accidentally left our older cat, Dawn, locked in the office. We had left all other doors open in case they had been in those areas, but we never thought about the office since she rarely ever goes in there. She was in there from Wednesday afternoon to Sunday night. We are so lucky we didn’t come home to a dead cat. She could barely meow and felt so light. She ate and drank right away and promptly barfed it all back up in our closet. After a couple more days she was back to herself and was putting her weight back on. We felt so terrible and vow to double check the house before we leave.

Continuing to work on the potty training this week with no luck. Not once has she gone while sitting on the potty. I feel as if she is teasing us now about it. One night she says, very sincerely “Sophia poopoo potty.” My reply, “Sophia are you REALLY going to go on the potty?” “No, don’t think so.” I should have known….

I have this little sing song saying when playing with Sophia to get her to dance a little for me. I simply say “Jam out tttttttt, jam out! Jam out! She never once has repeated it but this week I caught her saying something that I couldn’t figure out. I am usually the one interpreting for BJ, but he nailed this one. She was saying “Jam out tttttttt” while bopping her head. I hadn’t said it in weeks so I don’t know what made her think of it but she sure enjoyed it.

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Just in time for her birthday, Phoebe cuts tooth number one–bottom right. The exact same one Sophia had cut first. Phoebe has been flicking her tongue quite a bit over this new thing in her mouth.

Phoebe has also abandoned crawling. She started the week with what I call “momentum walking”. She would throw up her arms and take a couple normal steps, then she would see the thing she wanted or the place she wanted to go and she would start walking really fast with such a momentum behind her. Then the speed would catch up with her and she would fall forward or on her butt. By the end of the week she had learned some patience and paces herself better and walks everywhere. Sophia is helping too. She caught Phoebe crawling one day and said to her, in a firm voice, “No Phoebe, walk! Walking!”

A little scary thing happened for me. I had my teenage sister-in-law babysitting for me this week while I worked for my mom. I had the girls happily playing and watching a cartoon while I could take a shower. Just as I had gotten my bathrobe on I heard voices coming through the front door. I know I had both locks done up and I promptly found out what happened. When Mike and Catey knocked on the door (they said she started to yell mama right away) she went to the door and they were able to talk her through unlocking the door. When they heard the clicks they were able to get right in. I often bathe while the girls are awake with this same set up (otherwise I would never get a shower!) and so it makes me worried to do so now. What if a solicitor comes to the door? Or UPS delivering a box? I have thought about a doorknob cover but there is an open hole over the lock that would still allow her to get her little fingers in it to unlock the bottom one as well. As Pooh Bear would say….”think, think, think.”

Sophia got a new night light this week. We were so impressed with the pink flower from Ikea that cousin Gwennie had in her room we got one for Sophia. As soon as she saw it she said “Gwennie light!” We like it because it puts out about the same amount of light as having the scarf over her bedside lamp. But now she can’t turn this off or on or possibly knock over her lamp by pulling off the scarf anymore! Plus, she just simply loves it!

BJ was in Fort Worth for 3 days staying at the Fort Worth Stockyards Hotel. I called it “his vacation” since he really didn’t DO work, had a bunch of meetings, and ate steak and other great food while having no toddlers to bother him or drain him. Although, he was so ready to come home the 3rd day and he missed all his girls.

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We bought a sit and stand stroller, finally! I thought I would try and put it together while BJ was gone. I had done well until the very end. I won’t necessarily explain the logistics of it but I smashed 3 fingers on my right hand very badly. My whole arm was shaking from the pain and still today my middle finger has pain and even some strange numbness to it. The pointer finger isn’t 100% either. I hope it is all better by next week. The girls were very impressed with it and Sophia wouldn’t stop sitting in it until she went to bed.

Sophia discovered broccoli this week and loves it. However, she held it up and proudly announced “a tree!” I explained to her what it was and then later she exclaimed “grass!” Oh well, like it really matters, right?

Sophia has also really taken to singing songs. I have sung to her all sorts of songs and she loves singing along now. Even her nursery leaders have commented on how she is the loudest and best during singing time.

Sophia has to be the one to say prayers every night now. She repeats as much as she can and does pretty well. A close friend of mine recently got diagnosed with diabetes. The first night we prayed for her Sophia was repeating me and actually managed to say diabetes perfectly, but then said “I don’t know” right after. BJ was busting up, very obviously I am sure, since she has never said that word before and doesn’t know what it is or means. We quickly ended the prayer for daddy’s sake and tucked our smart kid into bed.

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Phoebe turned one year!!! We had a family BBQ on Saturday and enjoyed yummy ribs and good company. Phoebe (and Sophia) got some great gifts. One of them being a porcelain tea party set. Sophia adores it and it will be even better once Phoebe is old enough to play with it the ‘right way’ an not knock everything over sending her older sister into a tailspin. She also got a little cooking set with pots and pans and spoons. She already had plastic fruit and veggies so she and I have been enjoying ourselves “cooking”. She is so willing to do so and is very interested. Phoebe is having fun with the 2 push toys she received and the stability it gives her while she is still learning to walk is great. There is also this automated pat-a-cake bear that the girls both adore. The first encounter was one of just shock and awe. This is what I imagined they were thinking “This stuffed animal is MOVING!! They aren’t supposed to move! What is going on?” Sophia was so excited about the whole party idea all day long and since she got gifts too, how could this have not been all about her? When we did the birthday cupcakes and sang to Phoebe she was so hurt. She hung her head down and the saddest face I have seen. I think her heart was broken. We sang to her and re-lit the candle so she could blow it out too. When we started singing her face was one of unsure intrigue, then when we got to the part where we say her name she broke out into a HUGE smile and very proudly blew out the flame. This whole day only made us excited for Christmas for the girls!

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I can hardly believe Phoebe is one year already. Didn’t I just have her?! I love her so much and enjoy every week that she is a part of my life. She is so sweet and quirky and fun. She is a great playmate for Sophia and I know things will only get better for the two of them.

Heather is busy

BJ | 12:19 pm

Just FYI. Heather is pretty busy and has a lot to write for the weekly family update. She’s pretty enough that I’ll forgive her.

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